Stranger things have happened....for your relaxation

Using only song titles from ONE ARTIST, cleverly answer these questions. Pass it on to other music-loving people. Try not to repeat a song title. Go!

Artist: "Amy Winehouse"

Are you male or female: "cupid"

Describe yourself: "addicted"

How do you feel about yourself: "you know I'm no good"

Describe where you currently live: "rehab"

If you could be anywhere right now, where would it be: "close to the front"

Your best friend is: "procrastination"

Your favorite color is: "back to black"

What's the weather like: "Some unholy war"

If your life was a TV show, what would it be called? "alcoholic logic"

What is life to you: "its my party"

What is the best advice you have to give? "take the box"

If you could change your name, what would it be: "valerie"

What do you most fear: "round midnight"


As Always,
Sleepless

Do guys really expect Ladies to put out on a first date?.. AFTER ALL IT'S JUST SEX!

So these days I am in the business of dating, and I find this hard to believe, and I wish I could figure this out, for the sake of proving that there are still some gentlemen or women for that matter, left in this world, so I will try and keep an open mind.

Its funny coz I remember when a first date means, you go on a "decent" date, have dinner and then part ways after the evening is over. So, why now I see more and more first dates ending the morning after?

For instance take Fiona, a beautiful and talented 28 year old single gal in the city. She is on the hunt to find MR PERFECT (which really doesn’t exist). She hails from a great home and has the potential for great things. So why is it that a date for her has to be the "oops" factor the morning after? Are we expecting too much sexually that we can’t wait  for a decent amount of dates before we bed? Or are we being too hard on ourselves? Why are we in such a rush to skip the stages of relationships? Once again, are we being too hard on ourselves? 

AFTER ALL IT'S JUST SEX! I will come back to that. 

Yully, a girl from down the block, is a very beautiful and blunt human being….give her a few drinks and she is on the hunt or becomes a prey for someone who is on the hunt. Again, are we selling ourselves too short,  even if we take the guy home and not sleep with him? This is a total stranger that we welcome into our homes and lives. He, for all we know, could be the next serial killer or just for the sake of our hearts, a serial dater. When did we become so desperate that we will give up our safety in the pursuit of finding Mr Right? Is this a result of society or the environment that we live in? Is it putting too much pressure on us to give in too easily?

AFTER ALL IT'S JUST SEX!

I read an article, in the Huffington Post a few months ago, which really opened my eyes to the dating world of NYC. This was in itself one of the truest form of reading on dating in NYC. I really don't know where the damn article is at the moment, and I really don't have the time to Google it.  It was just stating that the ratio of women to men living in the city is 3>1. This giving men the advantage of picking several mates simultaneously to see which one he likes. This is a situation related to the TV show "The Bachelor". With these odds in favor of men, of course they are always gonna come out the victor. This however, by no means, has to let a Lady feel the need to lesson her standards. 

AFTER ALL IT'S JUST SEX!

Haven't you heard of the phrase "two can play this game"? Just because the odds are in favor of men, doesn't mean that we as ladies don't have a fair playing field. We just need to think more clearly on the options that we set for ourselves. This is not taking away from the few of us that really just wanna have fun. I say to each their own. Just don't bitch about it the next day. Hold your own and make no excuses!

AFTER ALL IT'S JUST SEX!

But is it the men to be blame for this shift in dating? Or is it us as females that are letting this kind of male behavior stifle our culture? We can rethink that last glass of wine or whiskey if it means that tomorrow we can wake up guilt free or the walk of  the shameless, for the lack of a better word. 

AFTER ALL IT'S JUST SEX! 

Come on, are we still in college? And also do we really expect a whole lot or a lifetime of love, from someone who really doesn't have the decency to say, "It was a lovely evening. I will talk to you tomorrow".  Boys will be boys, it is engraved in them from earlier on to think with their genitals at all times. I mean, if we can't say no and we should be the more tolerable beings (withholding sex the longest),  then how can we expect that from someone who is gung ho with the baby batter continuosly on their brains? GEES IT'S JUST SEX!. Whether we chose to have it or not. Just OWN whatever your stands on that matter may be.

I will leave you all with a little quote from an article that I came across last night

[Ask E. Jean: How long should I wait to sleep with a man? I don’t want to give it up too soon, but I don’t want him to lose interest.
A: You can sleep with a man as you’re being introduced, for all Auntie Eeee cares. It’s what you do afterward that seals the deal. If you cling like a needy dingbat, forget it. If you let him know he’s a marvel but not the only marvelous thing in your life, he’ll desire you even more intensely.

http://www.elle.com/life-love/ask-e-jean/ask-e-jean-25-things-every-woman-should-know-512948

YAAY! One for Auntie E.

To be a Gentleman and a Woman, means owning up to your desires guilt free and shamelessly.

So I say, is it really the guys who expect us to put out or are we the ones responsible for these expectations?

Sleep on it,
Sleepless

What a wonderful world this can be...

So this is Thursday, March 24, 2011 and the night started off at about 5:30pm. I went to get the G to head into the city for a Post bday celebration with Daphnee. Did I also mentioned that I can't be late. The G however had other plans for me. I tried to swipe my card but for some reasons it wouldn't let me in. I was there and a few people came swiped their cards and they got in. I decided to purchase a new card and guess what the same thing happened and then I heard the train coming. I finally got through, ran down the stairs only to see the back of the train departing. Pissed off I sat and waited for the next train. And of course the only obnoxious female with the loudest music in her ear had to sit beside me. I finally got a train, got to 34st and I was 30 mins late. I'm sure Daphnee didn't believe my train story.  We then proceeded further uptown to Hell's Kitchen where we found the cutest little Mexican Restaurant, with what seems at the time, the best frozen margaritas. I had the mango with salted rims yummy! The food was great too, I had shrimp tacos and I swear that was the most shrimp I have ever gotten in a taco, but the catching up on the weeks events with Daphnee was amazing. I always have the best time with Daphnee, one of the sweetest, kindest, most genuine person I know, beautiful and unbiased kinda gal! After Dinner we hauled ass to the highlight of the evening's events...Now for those who didn't happen to see or hear from me during the week of my bday, then you might not know what I am talking about, but for those who have, then I know you guys were secretly jealous of the BEST BIRTHDAY GIFT a girl like me could ask for. Daphnee took me to go see a Broadway show and not just any show, MEMPHIS. Probably one of the best things I have experience in a long time. I was soo excited. The show was great and the evening was perfect. God, moments like these just makes me feel good to be alive and great to have wonderful people in my live, not to say that if we had gone to MacDonald's or White Castle it wouldn't have been equally as special. It would have been. This btw was my first Broadway show and you were right Daphnee I think I am now addicted and I think we need to go see many more.