Call me crazy.
I believe that there is one person out there for everyone. Will everyone get to meet that person? Sure, at some point in their lives, whether they get together or not. Are they always destined to stay together? Not really, because one person's soulmate can be someone else's husband or wife. There's a great wonderment that happens, when expectations meets reality. Its never always as how we think. Expectations are how we perceive a situation is going to be. Reality is what happens when we are busy expecting the perceived outcome.
I have a theory and it might be true. I believe everyone gets to meet their soulmate at some point. I believe it does happen and we always know.
I know a story of this lady who was in a kinda sorta relationship with this guy when he had to move pretty much halfway across the country. They were destined to make it work, but as we all know long distance relationships are never possible, and the ones that do make it are exceptions not the rules. So anyways she happened to be on the train one morning and for some reason the train stops. A stranger started to exchange small talks with her and she spoke back to him lightly as not to be rude. The train started, she rushed off but not before the stranger asked for her number, to which she gave him her business card and got off the train, not really thinking much of it. She went on to visit her so-called boyfriend all the way across the country. He was doing well and she was doing well. Weeks later she had to leave work early because of an emergency. This usually never happens. She was on the platform getting off the train, when she spotted the stranger on the other side. He waved and they continued with their evenings. It was not until the third time they ran into each other that he finally asked her out. She accepted because she was trying to give something else a chance for once. He was usually not her type and when they went to dinner they had a great time so much so that she called the long distance boyfriend and called it quits. They are married today, That was about five years ago. The funny thing about how this all came about. She asked her now husband why he didn't call her after the first meeting. He told her that he thought she was trying to brush him off by giving him her card. She told him she was late for work because of the train and she was just trying to get out of the train at her destination. She also asked him why he didn't come after her on the platform. He said he didn't want to seem weird or like a stalker. The he said, "Did you know we were gonna get married when we met?" She said, "No, I was dating someone at the time who was completely my type, but was living all the way across the country and I actually was seeing him at the time of our first date." She said, "why, did you?" He said, "Yes! From the very moment I saw you on the train." She told me the story and you can tell that they are still in love. Don't we all wish we can have these rom com moments? They do exist but you have to be a romantic, gullible fool, who is willing to believe.
I believe!
Then there are stories like this.
I know another lady who thought she had met the love of her life, over some ten years plus. The one thing was he was in a committed relationship. This said woman was so sure of it that even when the guy got married she kept in touch because she has never felt this way about any guy before.Well anyone for that matter. Was this love? Are they soul mates? I am not quite sure. I also believe that there is such a thing called unrequited love. This is when one person is completely enamored with another, whom will not return such a love. This is very tricky and it can make you feel like this is your true love and that one day he/she will wake up and realized all the things that you knew all along. This is the making of a bad rom com and usually you get so build up on the friendship road that you waste most of your flirting days pining away for someone who is never gonna love you, and even if you finally get together. You were always their second or third choice. That is not cool and shouldn't be practiced. But to each their own.
They say when you meet the ONE you will know. You will just know!
No one can really describe that moment, but you can always tell the people who are spending the rest of their days with their soul mates. I read this thing once a long time ago. I don't quite remember where I got it from but it always stuck with me. It said, marry someone you have great conversations with, because when you are older that's all you have to look forward to. I'm not quite sure how I feel about that now. That was all fine and deep when I was in my twenties. But now I am in my Thirties I want it all. I want the passion, the conversations, the fun, the excitement, the sports lover, the music lover, the quiet times, the sensitivity, the emotions, the physicality, the father, the husband, the human, THE MAN!. I want it all. I have waited this long and not settling so I think I deserve it. Well at least that's what my oldest sister wish for me and you know what, she is mostly never wrong.
So how do you spot your soulmate? I say you don't, you will just know when the time is right.
We were at a restaurant the other day and the owner proceeded to come over to tell us a cute story. I don't know, maybe he was drunk, or maybe we look like the kinds of people in need of a cute story.
He said he was out one night and he met this girl from South Korea. Now he was from South Africa. He said she actually told him that he was going to be her husband and he thought that was strange given that one, she was Asian and two, women don't usually speak like that, well, not to him at least. But fours years later they are engaged. He seems to be happy and again I wasn't quite sure why he felt the need to share that story with us, but what I am trying to say is that when you know you know. It's like that feeling you get after seeing an ex and you know you are over him/her when you can look at that person and think to yourself. "Eww I had sex with you, what was I thinking?
There's something about knowing when it's right!
I am a hopeless romantic and I like it that way. I am that person that will jump over the moon for love if my heart tells me to. This is why I take my time with love, because I am trusting that when I know I will know and because there is no need to hurry when I am making up my mind.
As rainy as it is now,
Sleepless.
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